In the Name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most Merciful.
As a Muslim father who has just lost Muhammad Zikri, his adult son, it has been, quite a tumultuous period for me, in learning to accept that he is now, in the Realm of the Yaum al Barzakh [Realm of the Grave]. As a Mukmin, I have to accept the Qada’ and Qadar of Allah, Azza Wa Jalla and know that Allah is Ar Rahman and He Knows Best.
In the Surah An Nisa, Chapter 4, Verse 78, Allah reveals that wherever we might be, when our Ajal [Death] comes, we will return to Him, as predestined. Not a second too late or earlier. It doesn’t matter whether one is a King, living in a palace, guarded by soldiers and armed guards, or in a specialist medical facility, surrounded by legions of highly skilled health specialists, in one’s home amongst family or in an isolated hut, all alone.
Sayyidina Iz’rail Alaihis Salam [Angel of Death], will do his duty without fail and in the manner destined by Allah the Almighty. Hence my acceptance that soon, it will be my turn and yours as well. This is the reality of our temporal existence here on Earth. The 3rd stage of our coming into being by the Will of Allah.
Rasulullah (صل الله عليه وسلم) said:
‘When a man dies and his relatives are busy in arranging his funeral, there stands an extremely handsome man by his head.
When the dead body is shrouded, that man gets in between the shroud and the chest of the deceased.
When after the burial, the people return home, 2 Malaikats [Angels], Sayyidina Munkar and Nakeer Alaihis Salam] (names of two special Angels), come in the grave and try to separate this handsome man so that they may be able to interrogate the dead man in privacy about his faith.
But the handsome man says, ‘He is my companion, he is my friend. I will not leave him alone in any case. If you are appointed for interrogation, do your job.. I cannot leave him until I get him admitted, into Paradise ‘.
Thereafter he turns to his dead companion and says, ‘I am the Qur’an, which you used to read, sometimes in a loud voice and sometimes in a low voice. Do not worry. After the interrogation of Munkar and Naqir, you will have no grief..’
When the interrogation is over, the handsome man arranges for him, from Al-Mala’ul A’laa (the angels in Heaven) silk bedding filled with musk.
Rasulullah( صل الله عليه وسلم ) said: ‘On the Day of Judgement, before Allah, no other Intercessor will have a greater status than the Qur’an, neither a Prophet nor an angel.’
Please keep forwarding this ‘Hadith’ to all ….because Rasulullah ( صل الله عليه وسلم) said: ‘Pass on knowledge from me even if it is only one verse’.
May Allah bestowed upon this favour on all of us.
آمین یارب العالمین 🤲🏼
5 Stages of our Existence:
1) As a Mukmin [Believer], I learned that we are first created by Allah and come to exist as a living soul. In Islam, we refer to it as the everlasting Ruuh. This is the Realm of the Souls.
Verily, we who are the Children of Prophet Adam Alaihis Salam and our Mother, Sayyidatina Hawwa Radhiallahu Anha, are created specifically to worship no other god but Allah!
Thus, it is Fard [Compulsory] upon those of us, who are capable of rational thinking and able to decide and choose the right path towards our eternal Salvation to obey Allah and His Final Messenger in living our life here on Earth as per the teachings of Islam. As revealed to us via the Al Quran al Karim through Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wassallam, Prophet Muhammad ibni Abdullah.
The passing of my son, has been the Will of Allah, our Supreme Creator.
From Allah we came, to Allah, we return.
As a servant of Allah, we are to accept the Qada and Qadar of our existence.
Allah Azza Wa Jalla has prepared a better place for him, in the Yaum al Barzakh compared to the hardships of this Life, here on Earth.
Soon, it will be our turn to return to our Lord, Allahu Rabbul Alamin. Insya Allah.
There are so many revelations for us in the Al-Qur’an for us to refer to when we are facing the trials and tribulations during our Earthly Life but many of us simply forget to follow the guidelines as to how to handle such situations and give wont to wasteful lamentations and fall into despair. The Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wassallam advised us to hold firm to the Rope of Allah [the Al-Qur’an] and his Sunnah [Example] when we are being tested with each and every calamity in our life.
2) When our parents consummate their marriage, it is by the Will of Allah, that we are conceived in our mother’s womb. This is the 2nd Stage of our coming into being. The Realm of the Womb.
To those who have it in them to understand the content and context of the authentic Hadith above, you’ll realize that even before we evolve into a male or female fetus in our mother’s womb, it is Allah who determines our gender, our deeds and actions, our professions, etcetera. Nothing is left to chance, yet in Surah Ar Ra’ad, Chapter 13 Verse 11, Allah declares that He will not change the Fate of a people until they change it themselves.
How then, can we allow ourselves to fall into gloom and doom when faced with the death and passing of our loved ones, our own flesh and blood, knowing that it is the Will of Allah?
Our Supreme Creator and Sustainer. He who brought us into this Life. He who gave us this chance to exist and to go through all the tests, trials and tribulations of this world, in preparation for our eternal Life, Hereafter.
3) Realm of this Duniya. [Life on Earth]
The blessed Prophet, Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wassallam, stated that each and every one of us are as a pure, white piece of cloth or paper, free of sin, when we are born. It is our parents or guardians who raise us up as either as a Muslim or a Kaffir.
From the time of our birth and till we reach the age of puberty, whatever wrongs that we do, are not entered into our Book of Deeds. Whatever good we do, are entered and accounted for. Such is the Mercy of Allah upon us.
There is a Hadith of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wassallam that reads: ‘Indeed the angel on the left, will lift the pen for six hours, from recording the deeds of a sinful servant.
If he repents and asks God’s forgiveness for the sin, then the angel will not record it. If not, then the sin will be recorded as a sin.
(HR. Tabrani, judged sahih in Shahih Al-Jami ‘2/212).
So, we grow up, according to our life circumstances. Each of us have our own stories to tell. Some are good, some are quite challenging and some really terrible. Yet we will persevere and make our own decisions based on our Faculties of Reasoning and choose what works best for us depending on our situations.
The reality that we shall all live and will die at any given time between our 5 daily prayers, has to be realized and prepared for. We can’t go around, blaming this or that person, be it even our own parents for whatever befalls us.
When one has turned into an adult, one needs to be mature and act responsibly. Failing which, one would reap what one soweth!
The journey of each person’s life differs and varies in many areas even if one is born as a twin or amongst triplets, quintuplets, etc. We have our own individual likes, dislikes, passions and interests. For those of us, who are Muslims, we live according to what has been taught to us about Islam by our parents or guardians or on our own through self-studies. Society and culture also plays a huge part of our individual upbringing and life that we choose to live.
We must however always remember that this earthly life is so temporal, and be mindful that, we can die at anytime as per our Taqdeer [Fate]. Allah Azza Wa Jalla reminds us in Surah Al ‘Imran. Chapter 3 Verse 185:
So, do not go around being proud and haughty, thinking that you are better than anyone else, wealthier, much more handsome or beautiful than others for at the end of your life, all these worldly trappings will just disappear and evaporate into nothing.
Hence, it is not befitting for anyone, to be proud or arrogant for soon, one will cease to exist when one’s last and final breath will be drawn. All your wealth and worldly achievements will be left behind when one is being sent to the graveyard.
4) Yaum al Barzakh [Realm of the Grave]
Just like you, I can only share about this Yaum al Barzakh, what has been shared to us by Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wassallam through his Hadiths and what has been revealed to us by Allah Azza Wa Jalla in the Al-Qur’an al Karim.
We have only one Ayat @ Verse that explicitly states ‘Barzakh’ in the Al Qur’an al Karim, Surah Al-Mu’minuun Chapter 23 Verse 100:
This ‘Realm of the Barzakh‘ is a barrier between this Earthly Life and the Yaum al Qiyama [Doomsday]. There are a few explanatory videos in which learned scholars of Islam try to decipher what has been shared by Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wassallam about this transient period after we die and the arrival of the Doomsday.
So, if we are amongst those who are destined to suffer in the Hellfire, we will know for sure as to our destination because even in the grave, we will be tormented and tortured. Like a taste of what’s awaiting us in the Hellfire. Na’uzubillahiminzalik! May Allah Forbid!
But if we are amongst those whom Allah has forgiven, Insya Allah, our stay in the Realm of the Barzakh, will be pleasant and a taste of life in Allah’s Paradises. Insya Allah.
There is an authentic Hadith about 5 categories of those who die as Shaheeds [Martyrs]:
My son, Muhammad Zikri died as a result of suffering from perforated duodenal ulcer [stomach illness]. He died on the 20th of August, 2021. On Jumaat [a Friday].
From what I have read and learned from the authentic hadiths of the Blessed Prophet, Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wassallam, a Muslim who dies on a Jumaat [Friday] will be spared from the Azab bil Qubr [Torture in the Grave].
“Any Muslim who dies during the day or night of Friday will be protected by Allah from the trial of the grave.” [At-Tirmithi and Ahmad].
5) Realm of Qiyama [Doomsday]
Insya Allah, it will happen soon for all these signs of the Coming of the Last Day is taking place in our lives now.
May Allah safeguard us from the calamities of Yaum al Qiyama and forgive us of our sins. Amin Ya Rabbul Alamin.