Have you realized the stark difference in the manner by which the Muslims and the Unbelievers families of the yet to be found flight #MH370 Boeing 777-200ER handle the situation?
The recent chaotic manner by which the Chinese passengers families wailed and shrieked as if they had been possessed by some kind of unruly demons betray the way Muslims and Non Muslims deal with tragedy and loss of beloved family members!
Look at the way this Chinese woman created such a ruckus by shrieking like a gone stir crazy banshee driving everybody nuts at the hotel where relatives of the missing flight #MH370 passengers and flight crew have been waiting since the 8th of March, 2014!
This unruly manner of wailing like crazy only goes on to show the different manner by which people of faith and those without it behave!
Below is a photo showing weeping and wailing North Korean female soldiers expressing their grief over the passing of their leader, Kim Jong-il!
Another photo here shows an Indian woman wailing over the death of her family member in the 2004 deadly tsunami! Could it have brought back her dead relative? Wishful thinking!
In the Islamic tradition and example of the Prophet Muhammad Sallalahu Alaihi Wassallam, we who are Muslims are enjoined to observe the following guidelines or guidance as to how to conduct ourselves in times of sorrow and grief such as when our loved ones pass away or are involved in a serious accident or misfortune.
In times such as the death of our loved ones, we are enjoined to accept such a tragedy by saying “ Inna lillah hi wa inna ilaihi ra ji uun! ” which means ‘ From Allah we came ; to Allah we return! ‘
Straight and simple. We face the fact that our loved one exists no more. Be realistic about it and be ready to do what is needed. Such as preparing the remains for a proper burial according to our faith’s rules and regulations.
Seeing to what needs to be done and assisting the bereaved family to carry out the funeral arrangements. Notifying the authorities of the death and prompt registration of death and carrying out all the legal requirements that needs to be done.
Shrieking and wailing like mad serves no purpose! It does no good to the living ; what more to the dead?
Of all mankind, the Blessed Final and Greatest Messenger of Allah, the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wassallam was the most accepting of Allah’s Will! He showed his mercy and compassion by weeping upon the death of his son, Ibrahim.
Although he was quite saddened by the demise of his son, own flesh and blood, Muhammad Sallalahu Alaihi Wassallam didn’t go crazy by screaming out loud protesting against Fate as what the Chinese woman in the picture above did!
He wept silently, shedding tears of grief but was quite accepting of what Allahu Ta’ala had decided! He said “The eyes shed tears and the heart is full of sorrow but we say only that which the Lord accepts!“
That is the beauty of Adab @ Good Mannerisms which the Blessed Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassallam showed us and which we are enjoined to emulate.
The Mercy of Allah for all Creation forbade us from slapping our cheeks, pulling of our hair and loudly wailing decrying a death!
In some countries, their culture and norms encourages the loud wailing and weeping hysterically over the death of those whom they loved or submitted themselves to.
Here is an example of how the people of North Korea wept and wailed hysterically over the death of their leader, Kim Jong-il :
This prohibition by the Prophet against weeping hysterically over the death of a loved one is due to the reason that by doing so will be akin to not accepting the Will of Allah over us and such a behavior is tantamount to disbelieving in Destiny! Qada’ and Qadr! That’s a major sin and can negate one’s Iman and Aqeedah!
It’s not acceptable that one should lose one’s decorum over any unforeseen turn of events or circumstances!
Watch another example below. A Chinese woman misses her flight in Hong Kong! See how she reacts!!!
I figure that due to their nature of not being of those who have faith in Allah and maybe because they do not have the spiritual conviction of a good future in the Hereafter, they tend to go overboard in expressing their feelings when faced with a life challenge here on Earth, they just flip out over the slightest inconvenience!
Such a display of uncontrollable behavior over something that can still be solved by adjusting one’s plans accordingly is a sure sign of immaturity of the person! That’s not going to raise anyone’s perception of the individual. He or she will be shunned and avoided like the plague!
Be sensible and avoid throwing a tantrum and stop behaving like a lunatic. The reality can’t be changed. We all come to be and will one day cease to exist! This is what Allah the Almighty has decreed for us. Even the mightiest of Allah’s Messengers are no longer with us.
Every living being, creature, plant or organism will die. It’s inevitable. ‘Qullu nafsin iza iqatul maut!’ @ ‘Whatever that lives will die’.
We just have to go about it in a manner befitting our roles as human beings. Those who have been given the duty by Allah to take care of this planet and its inhabitants by using the faculties of reason that He has imbued in us and taught us through His revelations through His prophets and messengers. Guiding us as to how to live this life and to prepare for the next!
It’s a shame that even amongst those who call themselves as Muslims, this horrendous practice of wailing and weeping hysterically continues in some countries and cultures. I even came across this site which encourages the readers to teach their daughters in wailing! What a useless idea!
Weeping and wailing Palestinian women after members of their family were killed by the Israelis! Below are Israeli women crying hysterically after their family members were killed by Palestinians. United in grief! More pics here.
Grief can and should be handled in a wise and more rational manner. Crying out loud isn’t going to reverse the fate that has taken place over us.
No amount of tears shed sincerely or faked is going to return the departed back into this living world! Only in fictional sci-fi movies can that figment of one’s vivid imagination come true! Albeit it be just make believe.
There are some amongst the Middle East and Far Eastern countries where this happens as part of their traditions. These unIslamic traditions are a source of embarrassment to us and a disturbing trend amongst those who despite their adopting the required code of modesty as commanded by Allah the Almighty fail to observe the Sunnah of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassallam!
Al-Mughirah bin Shu`bah Radhiallahu Anhu (May Allah be pleased with him) said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (Sallallaahu ’Alaihi Wassallam) saying, “He who allows (others) to wail over his death, will be punished for it on the Day of Resurrection.” [Hadith relayed by Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
This hadith means that we should teach our family members not to lose control and grieve over our eventual demise excessively by weeping hysterically, wailing like those without faith, shrieking like banshees and tearing at their clothes in uncontrolled expressions of unbridled emotions!
This is what the hadith conveys by the Prophet’s saying ‘He who allows others to wail over his death!’. Dead persons can’t get up and tell off their weeping family members, can they?
Exercise proper decorum and be accepting of what Allah’s Qada’ and Qadr’ befalls us and all those whom we care for. Eventually we shall all exist no more until we are all resurrected to answer for our actions here on this Earth.
Insya Allah! Do exercise patience and maintain our Iman @ Faith in Allah at al times.
Don’t degrade our dignity by behaving irrationally like that woman from China!